11:52 PM

Yazid is now married

Yerp! Dengan 4 kali lafaz yer.. Hahaha.. Let's start from the beginning. I go and pick up aL, Liza & Biha and set off to Ahada's house around 4.30 p.m. Then we have a pit stop at Ayamas Seremban coz all of us are hungry. Then thanks to Garmin, we reach Ahada's house around 7 something?.. Singgah kedai Ahada dulu.. (Ahada ade kedai.. Huhuhu.. gempak).. Then baru reach rumah Ahada.. Big house.. siap ada rumah atas rumah bawah.. Org kaya je ada rumah atas bawah ni..Hehe.. Malam tu layan citer He's Just Not That Into You.. then we girls sembang2 sampai pukol 3 pagi baru lelap.. aL dh lelap lama dh since dier ada bilik dier sendiri (sambil layan lagu Twilight.. sentimental aL ni :P)

Lepak di rumah Ahada

Makan di kedai Ahada

Esok bangun pi breakfast dulu kat kedai, makan murtabak ayam & murtabak singapore.. Sedap siut.. Thanks yah! Pastu dlm kol 12 lebey baru bertolak ke rumah kenduri.. Sambil tunggu ketibaan kawan2 yg lain, pi jenguk Yazid dulu kat rumah satu lg.. Tempat dier bersiap sebelum bersanding.. Kami pon mengambil bahagian dlm kenduri ni.. Me, Liza, Ahada & Biha mengangkat dulang hantaran pihak lelaki..

Lama jugak tunggu kawan2 ni.. Dlm kol 2 lebey baru la Jinggoat, Lily, Diera, Im, Yani, Shahrul & fren sampai.. Pastu Fakri n pasangan, pastu Ida n Hafiz Tupai.. Makan2 n bergambar.. Anyway, tahniah ye Yazid & Nani.. n also to one of our fren yg bakal jadi daddy bulan 12 ni, insyaAllah..

Yazid & frens

So masa bertolak balik, kami singgah dulu ke kolej kesayangan, Kolej Legenda.. duduk2 n makan2.. sambil bergosip2 panas.. :P

Kat kolej

Let's have a good look at Yazid.. Haha..

Yazid selepas mekap

Hensem kan.. :D

P/s : There's more pix in my facebook and biha's facebook.. For those who didn't have fb, just msg me for the pix public url..

4:22 AM

Song Alert : Chris Daughtry - No Surprise


No Surprise Lyrics

I've practiced this for hours, gone round and round
And now I think that I've got it all down
And as I say it louder I love how it sounds
Cause I'm not taking the easy way out
Not wrapping this in ribbons
Shouldn't have to give a reason why...

It's NO SURPRISE I won't be here tomorrow
I can't believe that I stayed till today
Yeah you and I will be a tough act to follow
But I know in time we'll find this was NO SURPRISE

It came out like a river once I let it out
When I thought that I wouldn't know how
Held onto it forever just pushing it down
Felt so good to let go of it now
Not wrapping this in ribbons
Shouldn't have to give a reason why

It's NO SURPRISE I won't be here tomorrow
I can't believe that I stayed till today
There's nothing here in this heart left to borrow
There's nothing here in this soul left to say
Don't be surprised when we hate this tomorrow
God know we tried to find an easier way
Yeah you and I will be a tough act to follow
But I know in time we'll find this was NO SURPRISE

Our favorite place we used to go
The warm embrace that no one knows
The loving look that's left your eyes
That's why this comes as no, as NO SURPRISE

If I could see the future and how this plays out
I bet it's better than where we are now
But after going through this, it's easier to see the reason why

It's NO SURPRISE I won't be here tomorrow
I can't believe that I stayed till today
Yeah you and I will be a tough act to follow
But I know in time we'll find this was NO SURPRISE

The kiss goodnight, it comes with me
Both wrong and right, our memories
The whispering before we sleep, just one more thing that you can't keep
Our favorite place we used to go
The warm embrace that no one knows
The loving look that's left your eyes
But I know in time we'll find this was NO SURPRISE

12:53 AM

Dealing with Difficult People

Can you recall the last time you had to deal with a negative or difficult person? Or the last time someone said something with the intention of hurting you? How did you handle it? What was the result? What can you do in the future to get through these situations with peace and grace?

No matter where we go, we will face people who are negative, people who oppose our ideas, people who piss us off or people who simply do not like us. There are 6.4 billion people out there and conflict is a fact of life. This fact isn’t the cause of conflict but it is the trigger to our emotions and our emotions are what drive us back to our most basic survival instinct; react and attack back to defend ourselves.

In these instinctual moments, we may lose track of our higher selves and become the human animal with an urge to protect ourselves when attacked. This too is natural. However, we are the only animal blessed with intelligence and having the ability to control our responses. So how can we do that?

I regularly get asked “How do you deal with the negative comments about your articles? They are brutal. I don’t think I could handle them.” My answer is simple, “I don’t let it bother me to begin with.” It wasn’t always this simple, and took me some time before overcoming this natural urgency to protect myself and attack back.

I know it’s not easy, if it was easy, there wouldn’t be difficult or negative people to begin with.

Why Bother Controlling Our Responses?

* Hurting Ourselves - One of my favorite sayings is “Holding a grudge against someone is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.” The only person we hurt is ourselves. When we react to negativity, we are disturbing our inner space and mentally creating pain within ourselves.

* It’s Not About You, It’s About Them - I’ve learned that when people initiate negativity, it is a reflection of their inner state expressed externally and you just happen to be in front of that expression. It’s not personal, so why do we take it personally? In short: Because our ego likes problems and conflict. People are often so bored and unhappy with their own lives that they want to take others down with them. There have been many times when a random person has left a purposefully hurtful comment on TSN, and regularly checked back to see if anyone else responded to their comment, waiting eagerly to respond with more negativity.

* Battle of the Ego - When we respond impulsively, it is a natural and honest response. However, is it the smart thing to do? What can be resolved by doing so? The answer: Nothing. It does however feed our ego’s need for conflict. Have you noticed that when we fight back, it feels really satisfying in our heads? But it doesn’t feel very good in our soul? Our stomach becomes tight, and we start having violent thoughts? When we do respond irrationally, it turns the conversation from a one-sided negative expression into a battle of two egos. It becomes an unnecessary and unproductive battle for Who is Right?

* Anger Feeds Anger. Negativity Feeds Negativity. - Rarely can any good come out of reacting against someone who is in a negative state. It will only trigger anger and an additional reactive response from that person. If we do respond impulsively, we’ll have invested energy in the defending of ourselves and we’ll feel more psychologically compelled to defend ourselves going forward. Have you noticed that the angrier our thoughts become, the angrier we become? It’s a negative downward spiral.

* Waste of Energy - Where attention goes, energy flows. What we focus on tends to expand itself. Since we can only focus on one thing at a time, energy spent on negativity is energy that could have been spent on our personal wellbeing.

* Negativity Spreads - I’ve found that once I allow negativity in one area of my life, it starts to subtly bleed into other areas as well. When we are in a negative state or holding a grudge against someone, we don’t feel very good. We carry that energy with us as we go about our day. When we don’t feel very good, we lose sight of clarity and may react unconsciously to matters in other areas of our lives, unnecessarily.

* Freedom of Speech - People are as entitled to their opinions as you are. Allow them to express how they feel and let it be. Remember that it’s all relative and a matter of perspective. What we consider positive can be perceived by another as negative. When we react, it becomes me-versus-you, who is right? Some people may have a less than eloquent way of expressing themselves - it may even be offensive, but they are still entitled to do so. They have the right to express their own opinions and we have the right and will power to choose our responses. We can choose peace or we can choose conflict.

Difficult People

15 Tips for Dealing with Difficult People

While I’ve had a lot of practice dealing with negativity, it is something I find myself having to actively work on. When I’m caught off guard and end up resorting to a defensive position, the result rarely turns out well.

The point is, we are humans after all, and we have emotions and egos. However, by keeping our egos in-check and inserting emotional intelligence, we’ll not only be doing a favor for our health and mental space, but we’ll also have intercepted a situation that would have gone bad, unnecessarily.

Here are some tips for dealing with a difficult person or negative message:

1. Forgive - What would the Dali Lama do if he was in the situation? He would most likely forgive. Remember that at our very core, we are good, but our judgment becomes clouded and we may say hurtful things. Ask yourself, “What is it about this situation or person that I can seek to understand and forgive?

2. Wait it Out - Sometimes I feel compelled to instantly send an email defending myself. I’ve learned that emotionally charged emails never get us the result we want; they only add oil to the fire. What is helpful is inserting time to allow ourselves to cool off. You can write the emotionally charged email to the person, just don’t send it off. Wait until you’ve cooled off before responding, if you choose to respond at all.

3. “Does it really matter if I am right?” - Sometimes we respond with the intention of defending the side we took a position on. If you find yourself arguing for the sake of being right, ask “Does it matter if I am right?” If yes, then ask “Why do I need to be right? What will I gain?

4. Don’t Respond - Many times when a person initiates a negative message or difficult attitude, they are trying to trigger a response from you. When we react, we are actually giving them what they want. Let’s stop the cycle of negative snowballing and sell them short on what they’re looking for; don’t bother responding.

5. Stop Talking About It - When you have a problem or a conflict in your life, don’t you find that people just love talking about it? We end up repeating the story to anyone who’ll listen. We express how much we hate the situation or person. What we fail to recognize in these moments is that the more we talk about something, the more of that thing we’ll notice. Example, the more we talk about how much we dislike a person, the more hate we will feel towards them and the more we’ll notice things about them that we dislike. Stop giving it energy, stop thinking about it, and stop talking about it. Do your best to not repeat the story to others.

6. Be In Their Shoes - As cliché as this may sound, we tend to forget that we become blind-sided in the situation. Try putting yourself in their position and consider how you may have hurt their feelings. This understanding will give you a new perspective on becoming rational again, and may help you develop compassion for the other person.

7. Look for the Lessons - No situation is ever lost if we can take away from it some lessons that will help us grow and become a better person. Regardless of how negative a scenario may appear, there is always a hidden gift in the form of a lesson. Find the lesson(s).

8. Choose to Eliminate Negative People In Your Life - Negative people can be a source of energy drain. And deeply unhappy people will want to bring you down emotionally, so that they are not down there alone. Be aware of this. Unless you have a lot of time on your hands and do not mind the energy drain, I recommend that you cut them off from your life. Cut them out by avoiding interactions with them as much as possible. Remember that you have the choice to commit to being surrounded by people who have the qualities you admire: optimistic, positive, peaceful and encouraging people. As Kathy Sierra said, “Be around the change you want to see in the world.”

9. Become the Observer - When we practice becoming the observer of our feelings, our thoughts and the situation, we separate ourselves away from the emotions. Instead of identifying with the emotions and letting them consume us, we observe them with clarity and detachment. When you find yourself identifying with emotions and thoughts, bring your focus on your breathe.

10. Go for a Run … or a swim, or some other workout. Physical exercise can help to release the negative and excess energy in us. Use exercise as a tool to clear your mind and release built up negative energy.

11. Worst Case Scenario - Ask yourself two questions, “If I do not respond, what is the worst thing that can result from it?“, “If I do respond, what is the worst thing that can result from it?” Answering these questions often adds perspectives to the situation, and you’ll realize that nothing good will come out of reacting. Your energy will be wasted, and your inner space disturbed.

12. Avoid Heated Discussions - When we’re emotionally charged, we are so much in our heads that we argue out of an impulse to be right, to defend ourselves, for the sake of our egos. Rationality and resolution can rarely arise out of these discussions. If a discussion is necessary, wait until everyone has cooled off before diving into one.

13. Most Important - List out things in your life most important to you. Then ask yourself, “Will a reaction to this person contribute to the things that matter most to me?

14. Pour Honey - This doesn’t always work, but sometimes catches people off guard when they’re trying to “Pour Poison” on you. Compliment the other person for something they did well, tell them you’ve learned something new through interacting with them, and maybe offer to become friends. Remember to be genuine. You might have to dig deep to find something that you appreciate about this person.

15. Express It - Take out some scrap paper and dump all the random and negative thoughts out of you by writing freely without editing. Continue to do so until you have nothing else to say. Now, roll the paper up into a ball, close your eyes and visualize that all the negative energy is now inside that paper ball. Toss the paper ball in the trash. Let it go!

Nazirah : "Thanks TSN for publishing such a good, useful article. I digg it!"


12:58 AM

Free Time..

These day, my free time I occupied myself with a lot of activity.. Like recently I joined this club :-
  • Photography
  • Honda Team City
  • Archery
  • Badminton
  • Board Games
  • Karting
  • Volleyball
  • Swimming
All these are under Shell KSC, except Honda City Club and swimming.. No time to self-pity, and I realize that some of you still sympathy with me for being single.. That's so sweet.. Thank you :) But it's ok.. Yeah, it is nice to have someone who you can share your life with.. But I don't have that and it's ok :) I'm pretty tough on my own see? Thanks again..

Yesterday I had my 2nd lesson of photography lesson where they teach us on using Potrait function.. I have to say I suck and I'm not going to post any of the pic I took. It's stupid.. I can't get my focus right on the models they hired.. The instructor even comment that I make the models feet looks big.. I'll get someone to teach me.. Maybe Am@Fauxa, Anas or others who are willing to share..

aL, let's go karting!

8:35 AM

Cleaning up...

In the light of the recent events, I’d like to have a say as well.. There are things need to be cleared.. need to be straighten out.. You guys might have heard the “whole” story from one side.. I could have respond to that accusation that day itself.. (Of coz it won’t be nice at all.. who would if such things being said) But I know, it will just get worst.. I keep my silence.. think clearly.. and go swimming.. although I can’t swim.

Things aren’t supposed to be that complicated.. Here goes :

My sister is going for Matrix this month, and she'll be taking MUET. It across my mind that my book is missing. I remember lend it to either Efy or someone, let’s call her SB.

Some might said, “Buat apa la cari balik. Beli saja”. My reply “It costs me almost 50 and only use it once. Of coz I try to find it back”. U all semua byk duit eh.

I figure, things are really simple. No need to have a direct contact with SB. So i'll get someone, let’s call him RZ to ask for me. Since RZ are frens with us both. My only intention was just to know whether SB still had the book or not. That is all.

RZ said SB want to talk so he gave my number. RZ didn’t know I no longer use my old number. So no called or message received.

As for the online/offline part. I could be online half day, offline half day. I guess when SB asked RZ,or when SB asked someone else, i probably just start or off my shift, meaning that i just offline or online.

RZ also didn’t expect things to turn out this way. Neither do I. Don't blame him like that. It wasn’t his fault, wasn’t mine, it's all just a misunderstanding.

SB called me earlier today, discussing this. I understand her situation (although not fully, though I don’t see the need to let everyone knows), and I hope she understand the position she put on both me and RZ.

RZ update me that the blog entry has been deleted. Thank you. But one might said “Terlajak perahu boleh diundur, terlajak kata…” Well, u can’t undo what u said. U made a wild accusation and cursing us and eventually everyone knows it is us (Thanks to that cute picture). Anyway, the damaged is done.

I don't think the juice is worth the squeeze.

All who directly or indirectly involved, drop this. I don’t want to hear anymore, understand that? It is settled. We all have had our share of words. Let it go.

P/s : Picture? I can only think of one picture related to the Hitler. Jews. Too far? Ok, no picture.

8:26 PM

Sesuatu yang menarik..

As usual, once in a while, I'll check my frens blog.. See what's interesting with their life.. N I read Marini's blog. I really like one of her entry. I could never written what she wrote. She's brilliant. And ask for her permission if i could quote that. She said OK, and here it is..

"Title : Pentas Dunia

"Tidak ada lakonan yang paling hebat atas dunia,
jika membandingkan
lakonan bersahaja manusia
tanpa skrip
tanpa pengarah
tanpa jurusolek malah jurukamera."

Pelakon tanpa bayaran ini adalah watak sampingan atas dunia seperti kita lihat di kaca tivi-hipokrasiannya terserlah.

Pentas dunia, realitinya setiap orang adalah PEMBAWA WATAK unik yang bergerak mengikut rentak skrip takdir Pengarah Alam, Rabb Al-Alameen, Al-Adl.

Pelakon di pentas dunia pula adalah mereka yang memakai topeng, menyeleweng pandangan manusia lain. Memperlihatkan sisi lain watak diri yang sebenarnya. Mereka bergerak atas pentas ciptaan mereka sendiri.

Tidak ada bezanya pelakon pentas layar dan pelakon pentas dunia. Yang berbeza, mungkin pelakon pentas layar, dibayar sekurangnya. Pelakon pentas dunia... kepuasan percuma yang dicarinya....

Semalam aku berhadapan dengan Drama Pentas Dunia yang paling hebat. Siaran langsung, semua bergerak tanpa skrip. Watak yang hadir dalam drama sebabak 4 jam ini mengujakan. Realiti selepas drama tamat, adalah jauh lebih menenangkan. Pembawa watak drama semalam, mungkin ada di antaranya masih berlakon sehingga kini.

Anda boleh memilih, menjadi pelakon atau pembawa watak diri anda sebenar.

Allah Maha Kaya.. Maha Adil.. Maha Mendengar rintihan hambaNya. Semalam aku menang biarpun aku hanyalah pembawa watak aku sendiri. Pelakon itu tewas, dalam dunia drama ciptaannya. Ternyata skrip Allah lebih berkuasa berbanding skrip ciptaan manusia.


p/s: Tidak perlu paham, jika tidak paham. Sesuatu berlaku. Aku bangga aku menjadi aku yang semalam. Aku juga bangga dia itu bangun berjuang mempertahan maruah bersama aku."

She wrote what I wish I could say but could never say and much more better. Thanks for letting me borrow this yer Marini.

7:51 PM

Tomok - One In A Million

Haha! Last time when I was in high school, I remember liking Tomok with a few of my classmates. Back then Tomok was this cute boy who sangs jiwang + leleh songs. So most of them esp guys were laughing at us. I read a lot of stories about him back then when he is still residing at one flat in Cheras. He complains that his Kancil selalu kene pecah, all his car accessories was stolen.. Disebabkan tu, dia rancang nak beli rumah teres supaya senang parking.. So that was the last time I heard/read about him.

Last week, time balik Rawang, me, my sis and my mom had this conversation :

Adik : Kak gee xnak kat Shah Indrawan ke?
Me : Tomok?
Adik : (Impress) Wah.. kak gee tau tu Tomok..
Me : Awat ngan dia?
Mama : Laa..Dia menang One In A Million.. Tadi final!
Me : Ha?! Tipu la.. (Dlm otak dok bayangkan suara dier yg lama)
Adik : Betoi la kak gee, dia menang sejuta!
Me : Ha?! Mcm mana? (Masih x percaya.. Tomok yg aku suka dulu?)
Mama : Baguih dia perform.. Ramai dok sokong dia!
Me : Betoi ka? Bukan org x suka kat dia ka dulu?
Mama : Dak aih.. (Mak n adik dok sambung cerita pasal kehebatan tomok dgn panjang lebar)
Me : Owh.. Alhamdulillah la dia menang.. (Dok senyum-senyum)
Adik : Ceee.. kak gee suka la tu..
Me : Woh..Mesti la suka.. Dulu siap lekat poster dlm bilik.. Hahaha
Mama : Tau.. Mcm la kami x nampak..
Me : Hahahaha...

So pastu, apa lagi, YouTube aa cari persembahan Tomok yg final.. Terkejut mcm x percaya, ni ka Tomok? Gila dah berubah.. Suara dh x cam dulu.. Imej pon lain.. Baguih.. Nah.. Cube korang tgk persembahan ni.. My favourite..

Amacam? Boleh tahan la kan.. Anyway, dah rezeki dia nak menang mlm tu.. Tumpang gembira untuk Tomok.. :D

9:38 PM

Flightless Bird American Mouth

Just listen to this song..

Title: Flightless Bird, American Mouth
Artist: Iron & Wine
Album: Twilight Soundtrack

I was a quick wet boy
Diving too deep for coins
All of your straight blind eyes
Wide on my plastic toys
And when the cops closed the fair
I cut my long baby hair
Stole me a dog-eared map
And called for you everywhere

Have I found you?
Flightless bird, jealous, weeping
Or lost you?
American mouth
Big bill looming

Now I’m a fat house cat
Cursing my sore blunt tongue
Watching the warm poison rats
Curl through the wide/white fence cracks
Kissing on magazine photos
Those fishing lures thrown in the cold and clean
Blood of Christ mountain stream

Have I found you?
Flightless bird, brown hair bleeding
Or lost you?
American mouth
Big bill, stuck going down

P/s : I had to constantly remind myself that being single is great when I watch this.