How to Make People Like You?

Assalamualaikum.. Hi all.. How r u? I'm doin' great this couple of days.. The project I'm involved which is with Ethylene & Polyethylene is almost over.. We did UAT (User Acceptance Test) last Tuesday and it went ok.. But it looks like i have to go to Kerteh again to train them.. I like going there especially if i got to stay at Awana resort.. But it's too quiet.. I'll go crazy if i had to work there forever.. Hehehe..

Today, i want to post something about "How to Make People Like You".. I used to have a BIG problem on this.. I remember when i was doing my diploma, people said that i'm so NOT approachable.. that i'm not friendly and i'm very arrogant.. The thing is, back then, i don't really like to smile.. and i only talk to people i know.. and i had no intentions to be likeable.. I'm like.. This is me, if you don't like it, do i look like i care?.. (poyo x? Haha..)

But as you get mature, learned from your experiences..., making people like you is very important.. It IS important for many reasons.. As for career perspective, to get promoted, to get a good review, to asks for opinion and to be able to approach anyone for help.. Personally, you become more confident, you have many friends, people will want to know you and more importantly, you feel good about yourself.. I found a few articles that you can read on ways to make people like you..

• As for the first time meeting, it is important to 'look' like a friendly and attractive person - and this does not mean you have to have 'film star' looks or 'cat-walk' clothes! What it does mean, however, is that you need to look open, honest, friendly, outgoing and 'as if you care' about your appearance.
• You also need to be aware that you do not look as if you are wrapped up in yourself, or distracted in some way. When meeting a new person it is vital that you show you are interested in them.
• This means making appropriate physical contact in an appropriate and positive way, maybe this will mean shaking hands or even possibly greeting people in a slightly more 'intimate' way. But you need to appear confident and positive in all these things in order to start the process of conveying likeableness in the right way
• It is really important to make direct eye-to-eye contact with someone when you are introduced - which means looking at them in a straight and 'real' way, right into their eyes - accompanied by a warm and genuine smile. If you are lacking in confidence, and do not normally find yourself as a naturally 'smiley' person you need to make some serious effort in this area - whilst making sure that you do not give an impression of falseness, or 'overdoing' it as this will likely have the opposite effect to that you desire.
• The next 'big thing' that will influence people is when you start to speak. You need to have a lively and pleasant tone to your voice. Sadly some folks develop a monotonous, or dull sound to their voice. Maybe they talk in a squeaky or affected way. In this matter you need to be truly self-critical and, if you feel you are lacking, you need to make an effort to develop better speaking-voice qualities. It can be done - actors and actresses do it for a living, and once you develop confidence in yourself and the way you sound many of the other attributes of 'likeableness' will fall into place.
• If you have managed to make the right first visual and aural impression on a new person you are already well on the way to being 'instantly likeable'. The rest will depend on how your first conversation goes. The key to this is to remember that people 'like' to be asked about themselves, their lives, their likes and dislikes - in other words THEY like to feel the center of attention. They DO NOT like having to listen to the tales of the 'great I am', nor do they like to have the conversation monopolized so they cannot get a word in.
• If you can strike a good balance (minimum 60% to 40% in their favor maximum about 80/20) when it comes to who is doing the most talking, this will go a long way to making you 'instantly likeable' most people like a 'good listener'.
• One of the biggest tips for being liked is to try to develop a natural, warm friendly smile that you use liberally. People like 'happy people' who are fun to be with. Time and again both men and women agree that they are most attracted to people who can make them laugh (BUT don't get carried away and feel you need to learn the contents of a 'joke book' - the laughter needs to be natural and light to work best!)
• Focus on the other! Always make sure you are focusing on the person you are with and making them feel the center of your attention - create a virtual 'bubble' of attention around them - including being aware of any indication that they may be uncomfortable for any reason and trying to deal with it (this could range from causes such as touching on 'awkward' topics of conversation to steer away from, to them sitting in a draught!) When this happens naturally do what is necessary to defuse their discomfort.
• Remember that you need to keep your posture open and friendly at all times. For instance, folding your arms whilst talking is a 'no no' because it creates a psychological barrier'. But holding a persons gaze whilst they talk, and showing you are listening intently through nods and sounds of agreement as appropriate are really important ‘signs’ that you are truly focussed on them.
• Make sure you look good, people don't want to be friends with weird badly dressed, bad smelling, or just plain dumb people.
• Generally speaking, most of us already have good humor. We laugh with our friends. Simply, use it more, even look for ways to use it more. Tell a joke, however badly then laugh at yourself, if it is THAT bad.The world is serious enough without all of us contributing even more. I choose to like people who are of good humor.
• I believe people like being valued and a well placed compliment shows them that you value them. Other compliment-rich areas include: anything about their kids, their thoughtfulness, their thinking process, their departments, teams, company, their skills, even their voice.
• We have known people who apparently listen but have that what-I-am-doing-here vacant look in their eyes. By training yourself to listen, and acknowledge and then add value you will be a better listener than 90% of all adults. By listening better, even if you don’t get to say too much in a one-sided conversation, people will think you are quite smart for taking such an active interest in what they are saying.
• People who are willing to do new things, consider others’ viewpoints, or learn some new skill are generally more interesting and likeable. There are some people who won’t try a new restaurant or a new food or a new type of entertainment. We are all different, sure. I don’t like opera music on the radio. But if someone invited me to attend a local opera, I would go. Ok, I might not. We all have likes and dislikes. But the more you are willing to accept change and are viewed as flexible and adaptable, you will be obviously more likeable.
• Use open body language. Uncover your heart by leaving your jacket or coat unbuttoned and facing the other person.
• Be first with eye contact. Look the other person straight in the eye.
• Beam a smile.
• Be the first to identify yourself with a pleasant, “Hi! I’m Nick.”
• Lean subtly toward the other person to show your interest and openness

Well, i guess that's all for now.. Hope you enjoy my posts!

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